I’d like to share with you what I’ve learned about successfully losing weight and how the best way to get motivated, is to get results quick, and continue to ride that gravy train.
It’s about getting over the motivation hump, getting started and seeing results quick.
I hope you find it useful, and if you have a question, please email me with it and I’ll answer it as soon as I can.
I’ve been a personal trainer for 17 years at the time of writing this. I’ve seen a lot of different shapes, sizes and types of people come through my door for help.
A few years back I realized that I was having great success with people that came to me READY to lose weight and get in shape. The kind of people that just needed to know WHAT to do, and how to do it.
Unfortunately I was only having mediocre success with others that hated everything about exercise and eating right. My hard driving approach gleaned from my time in the Army was based on people that WANTED or NEEDED to push through. In personal training, those “easy” to train people that simply do what you tell them, are usually the athlete types, looking for a new mate, or possibly faced with life altering health consequences.
What I had to learn, was how to motivate the people that wanted to lose weight, but simply couldn’t push through whatever is was that kept holding them down.
About that time, I also put my gym into the financial hole by moving into a new larger place, with too big a lease payment and no business plan. This was MY biggest personal failure to date and all of a sudden, I knew what it felt like to want something, but feel beaten.
I got the “win” juice sucked out of me on that one, but there was a positive. I learned what it was like to feel defeated. I also started to become more empathetic and learned that when we fail at something, the last thing you want is a scolding. You want simple actions, that will produce the results, that will get you to your goals.
Something simple, that works, that will take you a step forward out of your hole you’ve dug.
A pat on the back and a little encouragement from time to time doesn’t hurt either.
So if you’re beating yourself up out there, please take it easy on yourself. You just haven’t established the habits you need to succeed, strongly enough yet.
There are enough people trying to beat us down physically, mentally and spiritually every day. Let’s not do it to ourselves. You have to be a tiger to win and if you’re not in the place right now to muster that, at least do a kitten hiss.
We make mistakes. So what. Fix them, and keep moving towards your goals. If you don’t know how to fix them, then find out by asking someone who does.
Maybe you haven’t totally succeeded at achieving the weight loss you’ve wanted so far in life. Not achieving something so far, does not make you a failure forever. Stopping trying, is failing. Until you decided to stop trying, you’re in the process, and are simply figuring out your best method of achieving the goal you want.
You’re going to get it. We just need to figure out a few things first.
Now if at any time you need to reach me, the email below is how you can reach me, so I can help you with any challenges you may face. Your question and answer will be shared with others so they can benefit as well, so I will leave out your name.
I enjoy hearing from readers, be sure to drop me a line and let me know how you’re doing or what you’re thinking about what I’m doing here.
Email to contact: Ray@RaymondBurton.com
Okay… Now we’re ready to go.
I’m off to write the next email for the FatToFit Newsletter.
And remember… if it was easy, everyone would do it, and it wouldn’t be special.
Weight Loss – The Ultimate Joy Sucker?
Someone once said to me that if you’re not doing something for the fun of it, then you must be doing it because either the payoff will be massive, or the pain avoided will be worth it.
First, let’s get the elephant skeleton out of the closet.
I’m talking about when people blame a lack of weight loss on crappy genetics or the fact that they were born without willpower and self-control.
That’s fairy tales.
You can do it. You can, and will, lose weight. You just have to do the right things, long enough and in enough quantity to see the change you desire.
It’s as simple as putting enough “good actions” into the weight loss bank to outweigh the “bad actions”. By this measure… there is never a failure. There are only days that don’t take you closer to the next immediate goal. You can eat a 500 calorie chocolate bar if you do 550 calories worth of exercise. If there is no exercise, well, then today was a “no forward” day. You’ll get it tomorrow.
You’ll get it as long as you keep trying.
All we need is a long-term positive net change. Just like the stock market. It goes up and down but you don’t cry or party on an hourly basis as you watch the news. You just look for an over all upward trend.
You simply need enough discipline to get a slight, upward, trend.
BUT WAIT… it’s my belief that if you find it VERY hard to discipline yourself to do something a certain way. It may be because there is another way or method you should be pursuing to bring about your desired result. That or your goal isn’t amazing enough to really stoke your fires. In other words, at this point in time, getting in shape is not the most important thing in your life. Cakes and couches are where it’s at for you, and that is not a bad thing. It REALLY is the most important thing right now to you, and you’re getting something that you need from it. You’ll have to sacrifice what you’re doing now for something better though, if you want to get something better and different down the road.
Here’s an interesting thought to toss around. If you could wave a wand and instantly get the body you desired or all the money you wanted, you would be missing out on the greatest benefits of pursuing any challenge; the learning of something new, developing the skill of discipline and learning patience. Not to mention discovering who you are and what makes you tick. This is the coolest game EVER.
So what if you did this whole weight loss thing for just for shits and giggles? What if you actually found it fun and enjoyed the process?
Your motivation and dedication levels are directly linked to how important your weight loss is to you. That, and if you don’t find the tasks to achieve it totally revolting. If you feel that losing weight is important enough, the motivation to act will take care of itself. Now, provided that those actions are correct, then you will receive positive results and are all set.
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