Did you know that the single most common regret of the dying was wishing they had the courage to live a life true to themselves and not the life that others expected of them, because when people realize that their life is almost over, they look back on it.
When you are about to die, there is a clarity that only exists in that precious moment. Everything pales in significance, and only that which truly matters is able to remain on the mind. Most people die knowing that they didn’t go for it. It is your life. When you die, it’s a journey you will make on your own. Only you will have to deal with the consequences, so make your own decisions.
Most goal setting theory guides say to form a life long, 25 year plan. Then work your goals back from there to do what you should right now. I don’t agree.
I’ve been there and tried that. The problem is that you truly don’t know the person you want to be in 25 years. You think you do. If you are living life fully, you never know what experience might turn all your best-laid plans on their ears!
14 years ago I was in the Canadian infantry and my goal was to become a sniper, crawl around in the jungles of panama and save the world. Now I’m writing to make a living. How does that work?
Life has a habit of changing. That means you and your goals will too. Why do you think there are so many divorces? People grow, they evolve and they become new creatures. Sometimes they turn into creatures that just don’t see eye to eye on things anymore. Their goals and expectations for life change.
All right, today, we’re talking Success Principle No. 2, which is how to find your passion, your “Purpose.” Stated as in the book, it says, “Be clear why you’re here. Decide upon your major, definite purpose in life and then organize all your activities around it.”
Now, for me, my note is that people go a little too foo-foo here. So, for example, I don’t know why I’m here. I’m 40 now. I have no crazy, Ghandi-like purpose or passion that I know of. My main motivator is pretty simple, and that’s to make money, cut obligations so I can enjoy life and be happy. So for me, phrasing it that way makes a lot more sense than to think of smelling crystals and burning incense and stuff. But anyways. To be on purpose means that you’re doing what you love to do and doing what you’re good at and accomplishing what’s important to you, so that’s how I see it. So that brings up the integrity thing too. I’ll link to the integrity post right here; that’s a good one.
In Brian Tracy’s book Maximum Achievement, he teaches the importance of the law of control which we’ll see involves both the internal locus of control and the external locus of control.
The law of control states “You feel happy to the degree to which you feel you are in control of your own life. You feel unhappy to the degree to which you feel you are not in control, or controlled by other factors or people”
People smarter than myself call this your locus of control. These smart people that write even smarter books all conclude that stress and unhappiness arise when you feel controlled by outside circumstances (external locus of control).
In my opinion this is VERY important. If you are into getting in better shape, saving some money and helping the environment at the same time, then there is something for you (that you get) in this post that will solve many of your problems you are having with all three above.
Today I want to share with you some points on the power of Self-Discipline I learned from Brian Tracy. Yes, that picture is a backward mirror image. This is a post that will cause some reflection…. bad joke.
You know, when you finally decide to go for the future of your dreams, the person you are now will no longer be sufficient to the tasks ahead. You have to become more to have more.
You’re one of those people or your wouldn’t have made it this far down.
Brian Tracy explains it best when it comes to success:
Once you have a goal and a plan, get going! And once you start moving toward your goal, don’t stop. Do something every day to move you closer toward your goal. Don’t let the size of the goal or the amount of time required to accomplish it faze you or hold you back. During your planning process, break down the goal into small tasks and activities that you can engage in every day.
You don’t have to do a lot, but every day, every week, every month you should be making progress, by completing your predetermined tasks and activities, in the direction of your clearly defined objectives.
You’re Not Alone Or Judged And People Do Care… wow, what’s up with that Ray? A little heavy isn’t it?
Ya… a bit but it’s what people are telling me….
I asked my readers what they hated about thier gyms in an email a while ago and this one turned into a pretty neat conversation. Continue reading
My twitter account was suspended today. I logged in a couple minute ago and there was the red box. I just reconfirmed a feeling I’ve always had about business. Never build a business around a resource you don’t control.
When I was personal training out of a gym, I was worried that once I established my business I would get the rug pulled out from underneath me. Law of Attraction? It did. Continue reading
BT released These Hopeful Machines yesterday and I got my copy thanks to my buddy Kevin sending me an iTunes gift certificate via email. I didn’t even know you could do that but it sure is cool to open up your email to a pleasant surprise like that.
I’m listening to BT – These Hopeful Machines right now as I’m typing this and loving the glitchy ear candy. Compared to This Binary Universe, so far there are more vocals that make this album a little more ambient trancy than the usual awesome mind muck left to right glitch pan.
I’m not digging it but it fits the mass market better than his older stuff.
Well this one has been a long time coming but it’s time to write about the New York trip. If you followed the launch of the Body Of A Soldier program you’ll know that my main purpose of going to New York was to do a session with the Bartendaz in the park and film it to include the workout in the program. But since I was there… might as well do as many fun things as possible while there right?
Get off the plane and there is a train that will take you right into New York. How cool is that. From there, you’re probably not going to pay more than $10 to get to any manhattan hotel.
Now before I go further, check this. I told a few people I was heading to New York and the comments all pretty much could be grouped into “Why?” and “Be careful and watch out for the crazies”. WTF? Seriously. First, “Why Not” and second, be careful what you look for because you’ll probably find it. People have to stop watching the news and discover what they think of the world for themselves and not what the fear mongers tell them.
I had an “AHA moment” today that showed me, why indication, telling people what you want, is so important to your eventual success in whatever you do. I love those peak moments, because they don’t happen that often and they are vivid when they do. Kind of like chomping down on the piece of lemon wedge that comes in your water. It makes you stop and you KNOW you just did or HAD something unique happen.
The person on the other side of the table gets an AHA moment as well when the lemon juice hits them in the eye…. true story.
What are you willing to do to get the things you want out of life? Your answer should be that you will do whatever it takes to get the things you want in life. Before I go much further, in today’s society the correct thing to put here is that you would be willing to do whatever it takes as long as no one gets hurt. Here is the thing with that. Someone could always get hurt by your actions to varying degrees and you have to stick to your guns. Continue reading
I was doing some reading about how to overcome fear of success and if it even applied to me. I read the most interesting thing. That fear is a nightmare and most of us are not succeeding the ways we want in life or achieving the things we want because of this fear. Now a mare of course is a horse. A female horse to be specific but that has nothing, absolutely nothing, to do with this cool analogy… Ride Your Nightmare To Success.
Everyone wants to feel good and happy. If they say they don’t then it is probably because they do not know how to get happy and have given up on trying.
Almost everything we do in life is to get away from pain and move towards more pleasure. The thing is that sometimes we don’t even know what is driving us and that is a very important thing to know. Because if you don’t know what drives you to do what you are doing… You’ll never know what to do if you want to achieve something different than you already have. Continue reading
Sometimes I get the coolest emails from readers… here is one of them he allowed me to share.
I’m the 80 yr old Aussie swimmer who thinks your programs are more suited to
younger folk. I did quite well at the Aussie Masters Swimming Nationals, 1
gold, 5 silver and a bronze, so my coach got a big thank you. A few thoughts
re fitness for people in my age group. Regarding diet, I think vitamin and
mineral supplements are essential, especially a powerful anti-oxidant. I do
meet people older than me who say they have never taken these supplements
because they believe good food should be enough. I don’t know about Canada
nowadays, but in Australia the earth in most places is very poor quality.
Secondly, The supermarket chains here will take fruit and veg before it is
fully developed so damage doesn’t occur in storage and on long deliveries.
Thirdly the older we get the less our bodies absorb vital nutrients. So our
fruit and veg may look nice, but it may well have less to offer in the way
of nutrients. As a post script to this my anti-oxidant also helps my body’s
biological terrain move from an acidic to alkaline state.
The following example provides you with a simple outline of how to get what you want in life. The excepts for the “How To Get What You Want” book by Zig Ziglar are coming. I will update and let you know via the monthly newsletter.
The first example is choosing a job.
How often do we jump from one mental thing to another as soon as our brains hit a wall. After you hit a bunch of walls inside your head and don’t get any answers, you go into distraction mode and flick on the TV for some electronic crack. Continue reading
In order to be self–reliant and self-sufficient you need to trust yourself not the guru. This post crosses every spectrum from internet marketing to Jesus so only stay around only if you like ranting without much of a purpose.
The Internet Guru
I just tested two methods that were guaranteed to pull better conversions on some of my products. So says the talking head of internet marketing gurus. Better still, they were the proof used to try and sell the rest of a system.
So instead of blind faith. I tested them myself. Call me a heathen.
Results? Both performed worse than my originals.
This person is supposed to be an internet god. The end all and be all of internet marketing gurus.
I almost turned around my whole system in a fluster to try and put these ‘full proof methods’ into practice. What a load of bio fertilizer. Continue reading
Welcome to the goals in life series. Today we tackle the difference between goal setting, gut checking and how to overcome challenges to goal achievement.
I saw the most amazing thing the other day and it shows the importance of questions. I will get to the story in a minute. First a little more about the idea above.
What’s the difference? Well with goal setting you have to know what you want and then go about a course of actions that take you closer to your goals in life. With gut checking, you just feel if a given circumstance feels right and then adjust from there.
I think it depends on your personality type and goals as to which approach to life works for you. See, personally, my goal in life is to be healthy and happy. My goals in life are also WHO I am. When I am being myself and doing the things that make me happy, guess what? I’m healthy and happy. Continue reading
How nice would it be to view your work as a blessing instead of a curse, instead of a necessary evil that you trudge through to enjoy your nights and weekends?
How awesome would it be to LOVE your work?
- How nice would it be if your work was an extension of yourself and your talents?
- How nice would it be to know and feel that you’re doing the work you were meant to do?
You may have heard this before and so we know it’s not enough to say – “Do what you love.” But the thing is, you must LOVE not in particular the label of what you do but the overall quality that the label needs in order to be successful. Continue reading
The addiction is growing because my tribal shoulder tattoo has grown since my last trip to Mexico when Branda got her butterfly tribal tattoo. It seems like every year my artwork keeps growing.
This time instead of getting it done in Sayulita Mexico I went to Mazatlan by myself and got the guys there to come up with more of a tribal sleeve tattoo based around a wolf and the four elements.