Category Archives: WISE

Words of wisdom, actions or decisions in applying experience, knowledge, and good judgment that I’ve learned. The “Wise,” in healthy, wealthy and wise.

Fearlessness And Courage – Fear Makes The Wolf Bigger Than He Is

What is courageWhat is courage? Some say it’s the spirit or mindset that enables a person to face difficulty, danger, pain, etc., with fearlessness. I say it’s the ability to act DESPITE fear.

And what does this have to do with helping you?

To explain, the single most common regret of the dying was wishing they had the courage to live a life true to themselves and not the life that others expected of them? Because when people realize that their life is almost over, they look back on it with clarity.

In your conquest of happiness, courage is key.

When you are about to die, there is a clarity that only exists in that precious moment. Everything pales in significance, and only that which truly matters is able to remain in the mind. In other words, most people die knowing that they didn’t go for it.

This is your life. When you die, it’s a journey you will make on your own. Only you will have to deal with the consequences, so make your own decisions. Those decisions will require courage.
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How To Stop Being A People Pleaser Ignore The Opinions Of Others

how to stop being a people pleaser like a cat that doesnt careToday’s car philosophy time is about how to stop being a people pleaser. You must ignore the opinions of others. I’m sitting outside Pier One Imports right now, waiting for them to open. I’m dictating into my phone so this will be more raw than usual. Not really safe for work. To add your thoughts, comment below.This is actually the unedited rough first draft.

I thought I would have a little chat with you ’cause I heard something today that really was cool. That was, from Gary Vaynerchuk. He says so many cool things like sometimes, I guess when you hear things that apply to you sometimes, like you get called out on your own shit? You hear like, “That guy’s an asshole.” Those are probably the people you should be listening to sometimes, I think.
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Know Thyself To Thine Own Self Be True – Just Do You

Know Thyself and Know Thyself To Thine Own Self Be True are ancient advice. Here’s what it means and how digging into who you are can completely change your life. In the end, just do you.

Polonius in Shakespere’s Hamlet said, “This above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man.”

Whoever wants to fully realize their true self, must be a nonconformist. It’s up to you to decide what is good and what is not. Nothing is at last sacred but the integrity of your own mind. Absolve you to yourself, and you shall have the support of the world.

To Thy Own Self Be True – Telling The Truth To Yourself

The truth is like a warm blanket, because when you find somebody whose words ring true, and you know that at the essence of it, what they’re saying is real, that it’s not a consensus of the general population, or it’s not what’s acceptable, so everybody deems that to be the truth, but the actual truth at the bottom.

There’s things that people don’t speak about. Yet you know at a core level that that’s the way things really are. So, truth and honesty, and how they are as a bedrock to a solid relationship with your self matter.

To operate from solid bed rock and not wet sand, you need to just do you. You need to know thyself as the first part and then secondly to thine own self self be true. All else is lies and that leads to separation of self. It tears your soul apart. Like a horcrux, in seven pieces.
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What Is Self-Reliance And Why It Matters

self-reliance and my thoughts on emerson
Excerpts and thoughts on self-reliance and what they mean to me. Starting with Emerson and adding as I go. As I read and re-read different essays and passages from the past, I will edit them and makes notes on what affects me most. You can sense the great messages in writing from the past, yet some of it gets lost in the older language used. As I go through this and understand the deep messages, I’ll put them into easier to understand vocabulary.
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Happiness Can Be Found In The Darkest Of Times

This is a conquest of happiness blog at the coreAt the root of everything I write, this has become a conquest of happiness blog. All the goals we chase in life and all the things we pursue – have happiness as the seed of inception. These summary notes are the thoughts generated by reading books, listening to audio’s and putting one foot in front of the other.

Sitting on the side of a mountain, a boy and his father were on a bowhunting trip when a scene unfolded in the valley below.
The father pointed, “Do you see the wolves eating the deer from the rear up?
The boy watched fighting the desire to pull his eyes away, “Yes.”
“Do you know why they do that?”
“No, dad.”
“Do you think it is to let him enjoy life a little longer before they have to kill him? Maybe because they are sorry they are killing him?”
The boy watched the deer’s hind quarters crumble under it’s own weight.
“I don’t know,” the boy said looking away.
The father lit a cigarette, “They are keeping him barely alive so the meat stays fresh longer.”
The boy crunched his eyebrows and looked at his dad, “Is that why the factory gives us the weekends off?”
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The Man Who Chases Two Rabbits Catches None The Power Of Intention

I’ll never forget the day Grandpa told me, “The Man Who Chases Two Rabbits Catches None.” I was feeling lost and pulled in many directions. I had to learn how to focus my power of intention and figure out what I wanted. I jumped from one shiny object to the next. I was getting older and felt like I was running out of time. I was stuck.

So I took a trip out to the cabin and visited Grandpa… here is the 1st rough draft of that visit.

“Do you regret all the time you spent doing other things?” I asked seeing he was watching a movie in his mind.

“That’s a tough one. I mean it would have been great to have committed to something earlier but I don’t know that I would have known what to commit to. It took all those garbage experiences and happenstance bits of knowledge to get to this place.” He said waving around at the cabin. “Early on I didn’t even know that writing was an option. I’m glad I jumped ship once I knew though.”

He looked over at the bookcase and then to me. “They say one of the greatest mistakes in life is to spend your whole life fishing only to discover that is was not fish you were after. Better to find out what you’re about when you have some time left. Not when you’re laying on your death bed.”

He took a sip of tea, and mumbled, “Two rabbits.” Then looked out the window for a minute and continued.

“If you don’t focus on whats important in your life, then someone else will. I remember when I first got back into fitness after a long run working up north. Life had gotten out of balance for me and I shoved fitness aside because I was so beat up at the end of the day. All I wanted was a meal and the bed.”

I could see his face change as his mind drifted deep into the memory.

Then his focus came back. “Anyway, I decided to get my lower body mobility back. I was in a lot of pain. I could barely walk. So I concentrated all my efforts on a 30 minute a day squat challenge. I spent 30 minutes total by the end of the day stretching in the bottom of the squat position. It took me almost three weeks before I managed to accumulate a 20 minute day. This was because of several things. Chores to do. The place I was in seemed embarrassing to squat. The pain in my knees and hips. The list goes on but the main issue was me. I didn’t use the power of intention on this thing that was important to me. I let the outside world and it’s distractions take more importance. But when I learned to focus, my lower body turned back the clock and I moved without pain again.”

He smiled pleased with himself and looked at me to see what I thought. I said, “That’s kind of one of the things that worries me. That whole thing about trying to catch fish, then realizing your don’t care. I don’t want to run out of time and realize things on my death bed.”

“Worrying about running out of time is not all bad Ray. As long as you don’t let the stress get the better of you. A little fire under your butt and an appreciation of our limited time on this planet is a good thing. Things in limited quantity are precious.”

“I like that,” I said. “If it weren’t for death. Our time wouldn’t seem so precious.”

“If you are unsure of what you want to commit your life to, center it around the thing you do in your spare time. Later you can see what is at the core of your hobbies that you enjoy so much. For me and physical training, I realized it was the freedom in the movement I gained. The freedom of doing something on my own that rewarded me for applied correct effort. These are things that later I found in writing as well. Physical freedom to do the work where I wanted and to do it on my own and write my own check based on my own effort. If you have an interest in anything, use your power of intention. Focus and concentrate. Stick with it until you are good enough to get paid for it. It matters. It’s the only way you’ll be happy during the process of getting good. After people start paying you then you better like it. It’s become your job. You’ll spend 40 hours a week for the rest of your life doing it. Decide to quit jumping around when things get boring or a little discouraging. So many rabbits. Stick with the thing you know you like through the hard stuff.”

I nodded. “I’ve never had a clue what I was supposed to do when I grew up. And now I’m growed up.”

“Like I said, these things work themselves out over time. Like trying to hit a target at an unknown distance. You fire and adjust based on your results. You can go ahead and keep your options open but all you end up with is a lot of options and no sense of purpose. No real value to yourself or the world. Not like the guy that has been wrenching on motorcycles his whole life. Everyone knows he’s the go to guy when you need that job done right.”

I knew a guy that wrenched on motorcycles down the alley like that. “So the more specific I can get over time and through experience the better?”

“Yes. Some say that general knowledge is better. I disagree. Vagueness waters down not only emotion but also the application of available effort.
 It’s the same with hoping, wishing and wanting without taking action. It’s all weak… undedicated… a limp handshake with yourself.”

I scrunched up my face.

“You don’t agree,” Granpa said.

“No. I do agree. It’s just the limp handshake thing hit close to home.”

“Good. Helpful truths always bear the sting of disinfection. You need to be specific about the goal. Not because you want to plan out step by step how you are going to make it happen or anything like that. Some things people have done in this world are step-by-step, but your desires will be unique. A unique dream is going to require a unique approach. This means , you won’t know how you are going to achieve your dream. This is why you must use the power of intention and focus on achieving your dream only. So you can let your gut show you the right steps to take and at the right times.”

He lost me a little bit there so I spoke up. “So I take focused actions, measure the results and change action based on that?”

“Kind of. Measure your progress towards your goals, sure. But you can’t control the timeline to achievement, only your actions. Do more of what works and drop what doesn’t. Eventually, you will be doing so many things correctly that the goal will come. You must only entertain ideas of the goal being complete. Then take the actions that present themselves. You cannot measure the things that matter in life. Things like happiness, family, relationships, quality of life. These are states. Not facts and figures. Understand?”

“It seems like a lot to keep track of,” I answered.”Do I track major goals in each area of my life?”

“No, that’s too much to handle. Pick two or three of the biggest areas you are unhappy with and strive for the best you can imagine in each.”

“Explain please,” I asked.

“I used to make spiritual goals, financial goals, physical goals and relationship goals. I made 1,3, 10-year plans. Some of them I made happen and some of them I didn’t. I was modeling how the experts told me to set goals. Goals are what you think will bring you happiness. Which is what everyone wants. Happiness. And the funny thing about happiness is that what makes you happy changes as you age. When I was younger I only wanted to crawl through the jungles of Panama and be the next Rambo. Now I want more time sitting in the yard with the wife and cat. The thing is, you’re happy when you are making progress on an area of your life that sucks.”

I sucked in air like a vacuum cleaner. “I can tell you right now the things that suck the most in my life.”

Think about the words, “Healthy, fit, sexy body.” Only think of them as words on a page as if you just wrote down your goals. Now sit back and think, no make that dream, of you standing on a beach feeling sexy, healthy and fit. Do it,” he said waving his hand at my face. “Hold that image in your mind with your eyes closed for a minute or two.”

The corners of my mouth started to rise with my eyebrows.

“You like, huh?”

I nodded.

“There is a difference isn’t there? That’s the difference between simply setting goals the old fashioned way or using the power of imagery. Do that a couple of times a day to motivate yourself to take the actions that are needed to become that dream.”

That made sense to me because I was excited about the image I had created. I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t thinking about where to get a gym membership.

Grandpa continued. “We think in pictures. Not words. Writing is a weak form of communication. Speech is even worse. I pull up my mental pictures anytime I lack motivation and it’s also how I fall asleep at night. I fall asleep with the awesome feeling of living my dream. I see my beautiful wife smiling at me, I see my two dirt bikes parked next to my jacked up chevy blazer. I smile to myself as I look at the property in the mountains with a river running through it. Of course that’s only the summer because in the winter I have a mexico dream…”

Remember those dirt bikes I mentioned? I know what they sound like, I know what 2 stroke motor oil mixed with gasoline smells like. I’ve seen the jacked up blazer in black, I went and looked at it long ago and I own one now.

It’s not about the law of attraction making something magically show up on your doorstep. It’s about telling the software in your brain what it is you’re trying to achieve so that in every choice you encounter on a daily basis, you make the one that course corrects towards your mental picture. If you feel anxious, your gut’s probably telling you to take the other option.

“Early on I realized I was great at wanting things; but practically incapable of getting what it was I wanted. Think about it. So many times I decided on a course of action and simply didn’t follow through with it. It took a long time for me to realize that if something was important to me and I didn’t have it yet, then what I needed was focus. Narrowed thought and energy of will.

Now it sounds simple in theory but theres two things to combat. Your mind and the will of others. You must be selfish with your time. You cannot let the agenda’s of others lives or desires distract from the outcomes of your life. Until you know a process like the back of your hand you cannot handle outside stimulus from outside sources. You will lose focus on your main objective and your flow gets disturbed.

***Example: Cats and driving.

Everyday you are going to run into distractions. Go back to your dream. Make sure you know what path you are on by spending the last five minutes of every day before bed, dreaming that you ARE what you want to become. Feelings, smells, tastes.. everything. You’re subconscious will put together some steps, actions, situations for you to play out the next day. Do them.

You choose, for example, a certain aim in life. You decide to become the inventor of something never achieved. This choice from here on determines two things for you. First, it determines just which of the sensory experiences of any given moment are most likely to be selected for your conscious perception. Secondly, it determines just which of your past experiences will be most likely to be recalled.

From the instant that you make such a choice you are on the alert for facts relevant to the subject of your ambition. Your attention will be zoned in on finding these bits of info . They are presented to your consciousness with greater precision and clearness than other facts. All facts that help you in creating that invention, will from here on out, cluster and cling to your conscious memory like iron filings to a magnet. Anything that isn’t important to this main pursuit you have chosen gets shoved to the background and gets little of your conscious attention if any at all.

All the wealth of your past experience is still yours—a concrete part of your personality. All that is required to make it available for your present use is a sufficient concentration of your attention, a concentration of attention that focuses persistently and exclusively on only the actualization of your biggest dream and passion.

Are you starting to see the importance of desire and specific focus on the attainment of your dreams?
If you chase two rabbits, you will not catch either one.

“Where I had huge success, I had narrowed my concentration to one thing, and where my success varied, my focus had too… and the light came on”

“You need to be doing fewer thing for more effect instead of doing more thing with side effects.”

“So when you think about success, think about dominoes. If you focus prioritize everything and put all of your energy into accomplishing the next most important thing. Hit the first domino and bigger ones will fall behind it. You do the right thing and then the next right thing”

“It applies to the smallest moments of the day when you’re trying to decide what to do next”
Putting effort into pushing two dominos makes you weak and they may not fall. Push one thing with all your strength.

“When you see someone who has a lot of knowledge, they learned it over time. When you see someone who has a lot of skills, they developed them over time. When you see someone who has done a lot, they accomplished it over time. When you see someone who has a lot of money, they earned it over time… 98% of the time. Sometimes you only see the last 15 minutes of their life movie special and assume it was an overnight success… but 98% of the time, there was years of preparation for that one shot that pushed the big domino.

Discipline can be defined as training to improve strength or self-control . Discipline is important if you ever want to reach your goals. In the up and coming generations, things want to be acquired now. It’s my belief however that if it is VERY hard to discipline yourself to do something a certain way, it may be that there is another way or method you should be pursuing in order to bring about the same result. That, or your dream isn’t amazing enough to really stoke your fires.

Keep in mind that if you could wave a wand and instantly get the body you desired or all the money you wanted, you would be missing out on the greatest benefit of pursuing any challenge. The skill of discipline, patience and self-discovery.

Your motivation and dedication levels are directly linked to how important your dream is to you. If you feel your dream is important enough, the motivation will take care of itself. You must have a set purpose in life, and you must give your powers without hesitation, obstruction and without reservation to the accomplishment of that set purpose.

You. Must. Focus. If you do not, your life will drip away slowly and pathetically like drops of blood from a limp, apathetic, slit wrist.

What I have come to understand is that many people are smart enough to know what needs to be done to move toward their best lives, the knowledge is out there everywhere for just about every conceivable pursuit. What I also understand now thanks to my experience with others that want to achieve something worthwhile is that knowledge is not what makes us succeed or fail most time. It’s putting that knowledge into practice. So if people know what needs to be done to move confidently towards their goals, why are they not doing it?

I feel one reason people don’t put 100% effort into their dreams is that its easier to stay where you are now and enjoy your bad habits than it is to put in the effort on a trip to your dreamland if your not 100% sure that this map will even get you there. You just have to realize that even though the map may be wrong, you won’t get anywhere if you don’t start walking. More than likely, you’ll meet someone on the way that can help you out with a little advice.

I know you run into obstacles, every one does. It’s normal to hit obstacles. It’s practically mandatory. So, the deal is, stop using obstacles as a roadblock and learn from them. Add them to your arsenal of things you know how to solve.

Some times you just cant get over a wall..
..so you go through it.

You have to drop the story line in your head that says you are anything other than what you really want to be. Its time to get tough and take possession of the results you cause in your life.

When I was in my thirties, I thought strength was key. What I was actually looking for was some sort of control in all the chaos. When I was a working soldier or making a career as an electrician. No control. But as I pursued strength I realized it was expensive to maintain. So much protein and eating. So much food and more weight always required. Then one day I noticed I could not do the simple things that untrained old people in other countries do while I was on tour of duty. I saw old ladies sit in a full squat and roast coffee beans for long periods of time. I saw old men lower themselves on one leg to the ground below from stair less houses and leap over rivers. These were people that ate once or twice a day or sometimes not at all and I realized I had so much going on outside my body with eating, supplements, bars and weights that I could close my circle and master my self before I had to waste time on procuring skills that were externally and internally expensive. It still took me ten more years and more loss of mobility to realize that I wanted more than anything to enjoy the full use of what my body was capable of on a daily basis. I wanted to kneel, jump, rest in a squat, run and sprint like an animal. The more I thought about it, the more I wanted to square away everything with myself. I wanted to strip away everything that wasted time on things I didn’t want and I wanted to focus all my time on learning through reading and recording it through writing so I could constantly remind myself what I knew during moments of clarity. That one of the best hobbies I could have was to move freely and bodyweight mastery is a life time pursuit, a passion I could grow old with. That’s why you see the chinup bars, dip bars and other things like ropes around here. Another thing was that as my circle of interest closed in, I realized it should go even tighter. That even inside trying to master my body, that spending time on too many movements meant that none of them ever got the focus and attention required to see their full potential. Hunters say that when you chase two rabbits, you don’t get any. It’s true. Even a pack of wolves zone in on one animal and relentlessly chase it down until it gives up it’s treasure.

Think about that when you go to school and take subjects your not interested in.

That was electrical school for me. I sat there in school learning something I thought would get me where I wanted to go but really had no interest in. The information was a force feed. I kept shoving it in and trying to keep it down but it wouldn’t stay. Two days later my brain had long vomited it out and I couldn’t remember any of it. But when it comes to random facts about animals or biology, I remember stuff from when I was a kid and never forget it.

“That’s exactly why I think it’s important to get into a career you are at least interested in. It makes the learning more of a feast than a force feed. You suck it all up and retain more of it and that makes you good at what you do which gives you a sense of pride.”

Stop learning about things you have no interest in and start doing something with what you know and make your knowledge grow from that kernal.

The smaller you can get your circles the more focused your mind can be on you and your happiness. The bigger and more circles there are, the less mental energy can go to each.

The best thing you can do right now is anything – take action. Nothing comes from nothing, nothing ever could. You know so much already. More information is not the answer. Act 1% on what you know, then feel free to look deeper.

Go over things ten times if it’s worth learning before you move on. Then once deep knowledge is acquired, look for more information to absorb.

When say go over each book ten times, I really mean it. Knowing things is knowledge but putting them into use is wisdom and that takes a deep and automatic knowledge of the subject.

Knowing the information is not enough. I used to have all sorts of weight lifting, mobility and stretching books. I had stacks of yoga videos. I went through it all and one day realized it still hurt to move my body. I lacked the focus and wisdom to put all that knowledge into action. To simply start putting my body through those motions that were required.

So what I’m saying is make your life into smaller circles. Get rid of the extra distractions.
“Like my social media?”

“Yes, like your social media. I tried all that stuff when I launched my book a few years ago and found out how thin it spreads your attention. I had to get rid of it. It’s too addictive and sucks too much time.

With Facebook gone, I think about life. Without Instagram, you enjoy moments and realize what truly makes you happy instead of snapping a picture and moving on. Without Twitter, you have an extra five minutes to prepare your lunch instead of spending money eating out, or five minutes to simply think and remember that you had something important to do that day.

At first I wrote these things in my phone, on the notepad app. Phones are handy for a lot of things but I realized I ended up with tons of these little digital notes in my phone and when I looked over them I would get lost in them and still have no concrete action plan. So then I got an actual notebook and flash cards. I write bigger vauge thoughts in the hardcover journel you see over there. That’s a morning and night thing and the flash cards contain the real mind benders of ideas that I want to keep hold of and not forget. Of all the flash cards floating around I have one master card. It’s my focus card and it holds only the three most important actionable things I’m working on.

He pulled the card out his pocket.

“I keep this on my everywhere. I’m never without it.”

He flicked the corner of the card like he held the secrets of the universe.
“This is ground zero for me. When something interesting pulls me in a direction, I ask if moves me closer or further towards whats on this card.”

I wanted to know what was on that card. In thruth it would be the deepest desires and most important things to my grandfather. Rarely would you ever get to know a man that deeply. Grandpa lifted a butt cheek and slid it back into his rear jeans pocket.

I couldn’t resist, “What’s on the card?”

“Doesn’t matter. What matters is that you decide when you are most happy and then write what you need to do to increase that area of your life.”

“I think it does matter a little Granpa. I’d like to know what is so important to you that you would obsess about it by carrying a card with you everywhere.”

“Obsession is what the unfocused see. The card is about focus. Even if it was obsession, what’s wrong with being obseesssed, fully consumed by something that deeply interests you. It’s that or floating around like a speck of dust on the wind. At the mercy of the lightest puff, going nowhere, going anywhere, hoping for the best. Nah. That’s not my bag. I want to be warm, I build a fire, which means I need to chop wood, so I need to sharpen the axe. Something on my card might be as simple as “enjoy the day” and that’s why someone might see me sharpening an axe. So that evening I can have a fire. Small steps lead to the big important stuff and the big important stuff is players choice.”

“There’s so many things I want, I don’t think I could fit them all on one little card.”

“That’s kind of the point. Most people can’t multitask their lives. You have to DECIDE what’s important to you and make it happen. That means a small list. Sharpshooter style.”

“Zone in and nail it with one shot.”

“Absolutley not. You need to take shots, see where you hit, adjust for windage and elevation and then try again. You could try several times before you hit the mark.”

“That’s not how it goes in the movies.”

“That’s why I watch very few movies,” he laughed.

“My wife always says I’m a water baby because I like the tub so much. Most people think why take a tub when you can shower. Same reason I use a straight blade razor instead of a disposable. It slows you down. Like the sharpshooter I make small adjustments and big adjustments. Every day I think about where I’m going and if what I’m doing is on track but a couple times a week I get in the tub and just let my mind go on the important things. I research, I let my mind work on stuff and reorganize as I stare at the tile wall. It’s amazing how many problems a blank tile can solve.”

“That’s a lot of time thinking. I’d go a little stir crazy I think.”

“It is a lot of time. Probably an hour in the morning and at least that at night but without it I start to feel rushed. Like things are happening to me instead of me directing my life. I realized that a long time ago when I used to wake up to the alarm and 5 minutes later I was out running with the rest of the platoon on morning exercise. It was all a blur until I hit the bed at night and then I’d do it all over again. Running around, taking orders. So reactionary with zero control over my day.”

Before you go to bed at night and every morning as you wake up, outline the general plan of your activities for the day. Select only the important things that are involved in living the life of your dreams. Do not bother with the details.

Think of the logical order for your day’s work. Don’t think so much on how you are going to do things but more of the things you are to do in relation to your ultimate out come. Your dream life. Keep your mind on results not methods. And having made your plan, stick to it. Be your own boss. Don’t let anything tempt you from your set purpose. Make this daily planning a habit and hold to it through life.
You’ll find yourself having synchronistic events and that things will “magically” work out for you.
“Magically? My problem is I keep fizzing out on stuff just when I start to get a little better. It’s like I word hard to fix a problem that’s realling getting me down and then as soon as it’s gets a little better I go off and chase something else. I know I do it and yet I continue to do it. The end result is I never really get awesome at anything.”

“I’m not so sure that’s a problem yet. Usually you’ll run around inside the circles of your interest. Like for me, I’d jump back and forth between bodybuilding, powerlifting, and bodyweight exercises. I’d never really get good at any of it but when you think about it, all of it was physical activity. Now what was it about all those activities that drew me in? The joy of activity and play as an adult. The physicality and improvement.”

My eyes widened. “That’s so true!”

“See, If you are going to succeed, if you’re to do big things, you have to be a trooper. You must keep your eyes trained like a laser beam on the vision of the thing you want. Your dream. You must stay in the race until you get your “second wind.” You must be master of yourself and learn to dig deep into who are and what you are truly capable of.

If this sounds like too much work, don’t start yet. You have no passion for it yet. Its not important enough. The reason, the WHY,is not there. Reevaluate the goal and what it means to you until the outcome of your efforts will be something that you truly desire.

Doing the things that need to be done to get what you want are easy when the thing you want is truly your hearts desire. There is no WORK in pursuing your passion. There is only effort.

There is effort when you bike up a hill. There is effort in gardening. There is effort in everything we do that involves a physical action. We don’t give it a second thought if we enjoy the actions that move us towards our desire.

Make sure you are working in your passion, towards your dreams or you are in for a lot of HARD WORK.
The fact is that to be truly busy in the pursuit of your dreams you must be never be in a hurry. You must work systematically. You must economize effort. You must permit no distractions and do your work leisurely. You must take time to think things over in a natural way. You must work when you work, and you may play when you play.

How much time do you spend in rest and relaxation? How much should you spend? Can you answer these questions accurately? You can if you are working in your passion.
The answers are what ever you want them to be.

There is no work. When you become uninspired you rest. When you are tired, you rest. When you are inspired, you drop everything and act.

You are your passion. Your passion is the core of who you are.

Your work should be a source of pleasure to you. If it is simply a disagreeable task that has to be performed to make the bills then it’s a terrible grind. If you have to force yourself to do it by shear will power… then this will be a long, slow grind and when you finally do achieve something working through all that internal friction, it probably won’t even make you all that happy.

Hold the right thoughts persistently in mind, and you cannot help working steadily on toward the goal you are thinking of. Keep steadily at work with the right thoughts persistently in mind and success is sure to come.

The world has always realized that singleness of purpose, concentration of effort, is essential to success.

I’m sold Grandpa. How do I make this happen?

Here is what you can do now, to make tomorrow better. Its the power of intention mixed with action.

The Man Who Chases Two Rabbits Catches None – The Power Of Intention Summary

There is a lot of talk about the power of intention these days and as well there should be. Intention is the start of all great things. Dr. Wayne Dyer made it famous with his book, and the movie “The secret” is latest proponent of this mental mind set. What needs to be said though, is that the power of intention without action will never grow into anything bigger than the brain cell it came from.

1) Get out of your comfortably uncomfortable zone. You are there because it’s easy to tread water there even though you’d prefer to be caught up in the current of a passion filled life. When you do new things each day, life is filled with a sense of accomplishment. You are creating a space for things to happen in your life. Think about this; if you changed absolutely nothing in your life, would anything different happen? Probably not and if it did, it is not something you consciously invited. If you didn’t create it by doing something different, you have no way of making more of it happen if you liked it. Worse, if you didn’t like the change that came, do you know what to stop doing so that it doesn’t happen again? This makes you passive victim.

2) Do what you can and let the results look after themselves. You can never totally dictate how any set of circumstances will turn out. You can however have control over the actions you take in trying to have a favorable outcome. You will come across this idea in the book “The Four Agreements”. All you can ever do is your very best. Once you do that, the results are out of your hands, so let it go.

3) If something makes you feel “blah”, then change it. Long story short however is that you get one shake at this. If something makes you unhappy, try to change it or you have no right to bring other people down complaining about it. You can change your circumstances or you can continue on the same path. The choice is yours. If you don’t want the most from your life that you can possibly have, that is your personal choice. You CAN have whatever you want however when you intend more and then take action on it.

4) Do what you like over and over. If something makes you happy, do it as much as you can. Make a list of things that really crank you up and do as many of them as you can as often as you can.
When you find a core set of things, see the connecting lines and you’ve found your purpose and passion.
If you spent every day doing things that made you happy, would you be happy? It is a simple question with a simple answer. Sometimes too simple for most to realize and make happen. But you can.

5) Don’t lie to your self. Don’t settle for second best if you want more. Don’t make yourself comfortable in situations that are not your ideal. Don’t spend 20 years in a job you don’t like. Do you really love your job or is that something you tell folks because you cant handle the truth? Are you happy with your partner or are you just scared to lose the little happiness you DO have? Don’t lie to yourself and when the truth surfaces, take action on the answers your soul tells you.

6) Workout. Your body carries around your brain and your soul. A dysfunctional body makes life that much harder to enjoy.

7) Have a high moral code. This code is your code so stick to it. Until your actions are in sink with your beliefs, you will never feel content or at peace with yourself. Other people have their own codes, so don’t be upset when people don’t agree with you in every situation.
An example of this is a smoker who wants to be fit. At their core, fitness is their true desire and every time they have a smoke, that little voice inside starts chirping. That little voice can get really annoying after a while! Until your actions match your true desires, you will feel conflicted inside.

If you’ve been a plumber for 15 years and for 15 years you really wanted to be an electrician… that’s very sad. Nip it in the bud. Is there is a situation, person, feeling or anything else that is getting to you?

Drop everything and deal with it now. Things like this are festering wounds to the mind and get worse with time.

Why would you not deal with this here and now? Probably because you are scared. You feel fear of some sort. Learn to become fearless which really means learn to work regardless of ever present fear. The worst thing that most people can think of that can happen is death. Ever hear a dead person complain? You have to go sometime, might as well do your best to have things the way you like them while you are here.

I have never regretted taking a chance. Mistakes are a part of a well lived life. The only regrets I ever have are missed opportunities to make my life better because I was scared.

You are the main actor in the movie of your life. You write the script. Only you can make the plot something that you are willing to watch each and every day. Intend it and take action.

If you do this, you can be happy and get what you want out of life. BE THAT THING, that you want to be first in your mind, then let go, follow your intuition, do what it tells you, listen to yourself, and you will be happy.

Other people don’t know what you’re cable of, and you know what? Neither do you, not yet. Not until you do your very best, will you know what you can achieve when you truly apply yourself. Outside influencers don’t even matter. People that call you names and make judgements shouldn’t even come onto your radar. Other people can think what they want. That’s not you. Unless you want a life like them, you shouldn’t even waste a breath on lending them your ear and headspace.You are, and can be so much more. You must believe it, before you can achieve it. You have to feel and vibrate the way “that which you want” does. Dream it strong enough so that you believe it and you will start to become it both in vibration and by your outward actions towards it. You’ll do these things because THAT is what you are.
Here’s the shortcut. Be what you are supposed to be instead of trying to be something else. What I mean is if you are trying to achieve something that the world has shown you to be worthy instead of doing what turns you on, you’re in for struggle. BUT, if you keep going with what lights your fire, lots of things that are required to achieve your idea of success will come a lot easier.
Look, a deer doesn’t have to try to be a deer. It IS a deer and so does the things a deer does. There is some learning involved to be a good deer but it will be easier to learn and become good at then if the deer decides that success means being a meat eating trout. That will involve a lot of internal and extrernal struggle. Know yourself.

If you want to be a best selling, financially free musician than you must do what a musician would do. But you must BE what you want and make sure that what you THINK you want is really in fact what you want. You can never become something that does not FEEL right.

I say this because if at your soul, heart level, you feel you are a musician or artist then you will naturally want to create music more often than you will want to ride horses. However, if you want to make money as a musician but would rather be out riding horses most of the time, then you will have to work VERY hard, show LOTS of discipline and FORCE yourself to take the right actions.

When what you want feels right, taking action is already there 90% of the time because you WANT to and so the process becomes a lot easier… and FASTER.

See? Just like one the quotes out of one of my favorite books called Walden. “One of the greatest mistakes in life is to spend your whole life fishing only to discover that is was not fish you were after.

Not to sound dramatic but learning how to focus can change your life. It isn’t easy, but it’s powerful and simple.

People are using the simple, powerful concept of focus to avoid overwhelming distractions in their personal and work lives so they can focus on what matters most.

YOU WANT LESS… You want fewer distractions and less on your plate. The daily barrage of e-mails, texts, tweets, messages, and meetings distract you and stress you out. The simultaneous demands of work and family are taking a toll. And what’s the cost? Second-rate work, missed deadlines, smaller paychecks, fewer promotions—and lots of stress.

Yet, you want more productivity from your work. More income for a better lifestyle. You want more satisfaction from life, and more time for yourself, your family, and your friends.

“If you chase two rabbits, you will not catch either one.”
“Where I had huge success, I had narrowed my concentration to one thing, and where my success varied, my focus had too… and the light came on”
“You need to be doing fewer thing for more effect instead of doing more things with side effects.”
“It applies to the smallest moments of the day when you’re trying to decide what to do next”

Why would you not deal with this here and now? Probably because you are scared. You feel fear of some sort. Get over it. The worst thing that most people can think of that can happen is death. Ever hear a dead person complain? You have to go sometime, might as well do your best to have things the way you like them while you are here.

I have never regretted taking a chance. Mistakes are a part of a well lived life. The only regrets I ever have are missed opportunities to make my life better because I was scared.

You are the main actor in the movie of your life. You write the script. Only you can make the plot something that you are willing to watch each and every day. Intend it and take action.

If you have an example where you have done this even to the smallest degree, please share below and help inspire others to do the same.

Ray

Monday Motivation – Get Motivated Using Intrinsic And Extrinsic Motivation

how to get motivated success road signThis guide has everything you need to know about how to get motivated.

So if you want to increase your will power to get in shape or change any area of your life, you’re in the right place.

Keep reading…

I’m a retired soldier and have been a personal trainer for 17 years. Here’s what I know about how to get motivated and develop self-discipline in one 8,000-word (and growing for the book version) article. A lot of different shapes, sizes and types of people were able to get motivated and achieve their goals by using this information.

It wasn’t that way at first though…

Before you continue, remember that learning how to get motivated only gets you in the mood to do things. We have intrinsic motivation and extrinsic motivation, which are both temperamental and fleeting. Self-discipline will always win the day. And we’ll talk about that.Self-discipline is getting things done, even when you don’t feel motivated.

I believe anyone can learn how to get motivated and accomplish any goal by following these 10 steps

  1. Understanding The Difference Between Self Discipline And Motivation
  2. Motivation Begins With A Desire – Focus
  3. Modeling And Learning
  4. Making A Plan
  5. Stacking Instrinic Motivations For Discipline And Habits
  6. Become The Thing – How To Get Motivated From Dreaming And Visualizing
  7. Never Give Up – Only Modify The Approach
  8. Becomimg Patient
  9. Loving The Work
  10. Expecting Success

If you would prefer to read this on your digital reader, there is a book on the way. I will email subscribers to the newsletter when it’s published. There is an open discussion on how to get motivated set up in the comments after this guide.

A few years back I had great success personal training people that came READY to lose weight and get in shape. The kind of people that needed to know WHAT to do, and how to do it.

Unfortunately, I was only having mediocre success with the others. Those that needed motivation.

My military approach gleaned from my time in the Army was based on people that WANTED to push through. In personal training, these are “easy” people to train. They do what you tell them and are usually the achiever/athlete types.

What I had to learn, was how to motivate those couldn’t push through whatever it was that held them back.

About that time, I also put my gym into the financial hole. I moved into a new location, with too big a lease payment and no business plan. At the time, this was MY biggest personal failure. Now I knew what it felt like to want something, but feel beaten.
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How To Develop Self-Discipline And Become Unstoppable

self-disciplineToday I want to share with you some points on how to develop self-discipline. When you finally decide to go for the future of your dreams, the person you are now will no longer be sufficient to the tasks ahead. You have to become more to have more.

In Brian Tracy’s book Maximum Achievement, he teaches the importance of the law of control which we’ll see involves both the internal locus of control and the external locus of control.

The law of control states “You feel happy to the degree to which you feel you are in control of your own life. You feel unhappy to the degree to which you feel you are not in control, or controlled by other factors or people”

What Is Locus Of Control Video

People smarter than myself call this your locus of control. These smart people that write even smarter books all conclude that stress and unhappiness arise when you feel controlled by outside circumstances (external locus of control).
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Does The Law of Attraction Work?

law of attraction, shows balanced chakrasIf you’ve watched a movie called “The Secret,” and you’re still not a millionaire, you have to ask yourself, “Does the Law of Attraction work?”

I mean you’ve probably thought really hard about getting the date or the money or the job but yet, where is it?

Were you lied to about the Law Of Attraction?

In my opinion, the answer is yes.

Although it’s true that you start to become what you think about most of the time, there’s a big piece of the puzzle missing here.

“The more intensely we feel about an idea or a goal, the more assuredly the idea, buried deep in our subconscious, will direct us along the path to its fulfillment.”
― Earl Nightingale

Don’t Believe In Fairy Tales But Believe In Integrity

Nothing magic happens in the real world when it comes to the law of attraction. What really happens is you bring your strengths and desires into alignment with what the buying market needs and you become a success.

Because you are playing to your strengths, you enjoy the process and spend more time and effort working on the things that need to be done to bring success your way.

If you’re frustrated and angry with where you are now, that’s o.k. This is your inner guidance telling you what you don’t want. Thank it and use it. Use it to change your vibration to think about the things that you now know you do want. Do you hate not having money to pay for bills? That is o.k. Now you want to change it over to thinking about having a surplus of money so your bills are a joy to pay. The difference is slight. The effects on your attitude are not.

Now, what do you think when you hear all this foofy stuff like, soul, universe and law of attraction? It sounds pretty bizarre, doesn’t it? Does this law of attraction thing almost seems like a cult to you? Well, yes, just like everything else out there, there are people that mean well and there are people that will use anything new to make massive amounts of money. There are also people that will always pay money to jump on a bandwagon. Especially if it’s offering a quick fix.

A Quick Recap

What is being said in the readers digest version is; get rid of your limiting beliefs and tune into the circumstance that are coming to your awareness because your brain is concentrating on them. Ever want to buy a certain model or color of car? Then you notice it everywhere. Same thing. When you keep something at the forefront of your mind, you will notice more things that have to do with it.

When anything like happiness is set as an intention, you will notice more ways of making yourself happy. The only thing you physically have to do is take advantage of the circumstance and take action.

ME: “Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh. I really want an ice cream cone.”

OPPORTUNITY: “Hey son, want a lick?”

ME: “No thanks Dad. I’m waiting for someone to come out of the blue and offer me a chocolate chunk, double scoop waffle cone with sprinkles.”

Don’t die with a dream still in you because of inaction (that’s fear’s younger passive brother). How could we have all these dreams and not have an answer to completing them?

When I personal train people I tell them to do things. If they listen and do it, the result is that they lose weight. I could explain everything but it’s not necessary. They can go get certified if that’s what they want but if they act on what I am giving them, results happen. But if they doubt me and the information I’m giving and then don’t act on it..guess what? No action, no reward.

ME: “Its dark in here. I wish it was brighter.”

OPPORTUNITY: “Flick the switch”

ME: “It might not work, I don’t want to bother. I don’t understand volts, resistance and current”.

OPPORTUNITY: “Flick the frick’n switch man!”

There’s Truth Behind The Fluff

Let’s talk about releasing or reprograming. If you have your path, your vision, and its not happening, then you have a resistance that is not resonating with your desire inside. You have to vibrate with the same level as the desire. Is that a little too hokey?

Check this out (this actually happened):

You desperately want to lose weight. You have tried every program, pill and exercise gadget out there. Nothing works. When nothing works, that’s usually a sign. Especially if it has worked for others.

What you are not bringing up is the painful memory of being raped as a child. Deep in your subconscious, you know that when you lose weight and get that sexy body you have always wanted; you are going to attract attention from the opposite sex.

I see an internal conflict brewing and two vibrational thoughts in opposition. Consequently, tension, anger, and frustration are born. The signs your body gives you that it is in DIS-ease. Go inside to fix the outside.

To put the law of attraction to work for you;

  • Find out what you really want by starting with what you don’t.
  • Release, forgive, dig around inside to see what might be at emotional odds with your goal.
  • Let the way present itself.
  • Be open and awake so you can see the signs.
  • Act on them. In other words, work long and intensely on it.

We feel bad because we don’t resonate with something that is going on. We are out of tune, playing in the wrong key. In other words, what we want is not matching what we are getting from something. It means we are out of line with what we truly want.

Do you really think that your subconscious is going to make you super successful at something that makes you feel like crap on a daily basis? Of course not, why would it want you to have more of what you deep down don’t really enjoy? Continue reading