Everyone wants to feel good and happy. If they say they don’t then it is probably because they do not know how to get happy and have given up on trying.
Almost everything we do in life is to get away from pain and move towards more pleasure. The thing is that sometimes we don’t even know what is driving us and that is a very important thing to know. Because if you don’t know what drives you to do what you are doing… You’ll never know what to do if you want to achieve something different than you already have.
What drives you is your values. Your most important values are what colour your judgements you make consciously and unconsciously every day. Do this day after day, month after month and year after year and you’ll see that the values you hold that colour your decisions become the forces that create the person you know as yourself. If you want to know what drives you so that you can then change your actions to achieve something different than you are now, I suggest you pose this question to yourself:
What is most important in life to me?
Now just list out 5-10 of the first things that come to your mind. Don’t worry about getting them in order yet. Just get everything that is in your head out on paper. Now look at the list again and look for things instead of states. What I mean is money for example. People will say “Money is important to me”. Money is not important to anyone. It’s paper. What is important is what that money provides or does for you. So in my case when I list money what I am really saying is that money is important to me because it allows me the freedom to do the things I want, when I want. So money is not important to me. Freedom is. So I would go back and change is from a thing to a state.
What this will do is show you important things about yourself. When I did this I realized a huge conflict inside myself. I wanted money for freedom but the pursuit of money in the way I was doing it was limiting my freedom because I had to be at work. Now there is an internal struggle that was holding me back. Because of this realization, I changed my approaches and realized that I will only work when it generates recurring or passive income from one time effort.
After you figure out what positively motivates you, do the same thing for the top 5-10 things that you move away from. We want to look at the carrot and the stick. Both influence every decision you make and thus, who you are.
When you get these conflicts out of the way, you are clear inside and start to really apply yourself to everything 100 percent and 100 percent is the only way to go.