The Four Letter Word That Determines Success

Ray Bradbury was a success because he loved what he did and got paid for itHow nice would it be to view your work as a blessing instead of a curse, instead of a necessary evil that you trudge through to enjoy your nights and weekends?

How awesome would it be to LOVE your work?

  • How nice would it be if your work was an extension of yourself and your talents?
  • How nice would it be to know and feel that you’re doing the work you were meant to do?

You may have heard this before and so we know it’s not enough to say – “Do what you love.” But the thing is, you must LOVE not in particular the label of what you do but the overall quality that the label needs in order to be successful.

Let Me Explain What I Mean.

Lets say you are a writer. You know hypothetically of course… 😉

It’s not the label of being a ‘writer’ that most people fall in love with. It’s that things they do on a daily basis that it takes to be a writer that makes them happy. Things like thinking while having a cup of coffee and putting their emotions to paper. From there, those things and feelings, they, in turn, love being a writer. Since they love feeling that way, they do more of the thing that make for a successful writer.

Doing What You Love – Ra Ra Ray. More Foo Foo Self Help.

You’ve been down this road already haven’t you? You need the ‘how’ of what needs to be done and not the ‘what’. You know you should be doing what you love doing. It just makes sense.
So then…

  • How do you find it?
  • How do you find it exactly?
  • How do you know you’ve found it?
  • How do you get paid enough for doing it to make a living?

These are the questions I asked myself as I went through my many job changes and always feeling dissatisfied with life despite the blessings I had and was well aware of. From being in the army, to being a personal trainer, I was always looking inside.

Every body wants to wake up in the morning and be excited about their tasks for the day. So then you have to ask yourself: If this path is so great, then why doesn’t everyone go on it?

*note: One of the craziest feelings is being great at something you don’t enjoy. It’s a terrible life trap.

The reason they are not on the right path is simply because they can’t seem to find what they love to do.

They don’t know where to start. They’re stuck in a pattern of work, eat, take care of the kids, go to sleep and wake up to do it all over again. They take no time to think about themselves and the way their lives are going. Even if they did, there is no guide that was given and set in place in the educational system. So they can’t take the first step. Both you and I know that the first step is the hardest. That’s one thing I have learned from the fitness business… and hanging off cliffs.

Even if they did find it, they don’t know how to make enough money doing it to feed their families.

To quote Brain Kim from his book How to FINALLY Find What You Love To Do And Get Paid For Doing It:

It’s the journey of finding what you love to do and getting paid for it while paying for living expenses without getting into huge financial trouble that seems to be the big obstacle for most people.

When it’s all said and done, the bottom line is simply this:

If you have to work (which you must in order to survive), you might as well be doing the kind of work you love to do and get paid for doing it as well. ”

It amazes me how many people try something they love for a couple of weeks and then pull the plug because they “Can’t make money doing it.” You have to step back and put things in perspective!

I look back over my last 7 or so years trying to make a living online as an example. During those seven years, I’ve travelled around the world, had many awesome experiences, went to bed and woke up when I wanted and had successes and failures.

Since that time, I have learned how to make a reliable living online and I am not facing a huge debt. I learned specific skills about how to make money blogging, how to make money with a membership site and how to make money while offering free and valuable content from the best of the best.

I had these awesome life experiences and learned all this specific information for way less than the cost of a university education and in about the same time. The major factor is that I didn’t learn how to WORK FOR SOMEONE ELSE the way university teaches. I learned how to PLAY ON MY OWN and have my income be residual and passive at the same time.

Meaning that even though I love what I play at, I don’t have to do even that.

We Don’t Need More Inspiration. We Need Practical Application” – Brain Kim

You can read ‘rah rah’ articles and inspirational books all day long and that does serve a purpose, but if you are going to change you life then you need practical steps to follow. These practical steps are where you should be spending your learning time and not in the conventional education system.

Unless of course you want to WORK in the conventional way.

Earl Nightingale was famous for saying that we need more individuals and that conformity is not the way to success.

Each man has his own vocation. This talent is the call. He inclines to do something which is easy to him and good when it is done, but which no other man can do. He has no rival. For the more truly he consults his own powers, the more difference will his work exhibit from the work of any other.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Seems Folks Have Already Figured This Out And I Didn’t Listen…

By now you know the path you want to take. You just need to know what to do.

As a personal trainer I’ve learned that if you want to be able to do something well and quickly, then go to the experts. Let someone else do all the hours of research, information gathering and sifting because that’s what THEY LOVE TO DO and apply what they have learned.

… Brain Kim has done just that.

Brian has researched just about every article and book on the subject and taken down careful notes on all of them over the course of 6 months and the result was over 400 pages of information.

He looked to see what the common threads were in all of this self help and personal success material. I looked to see what the real “meat” was. He dug for the ‘secrets’. He trimmed the “fat” so that only the real, practical advice would be available to anyone and that it would deliver real results if they listened.

Then he interviewed several people who have found what they love to do and traced their journey from start to present, trying to discover how they came about discovering what they loved to do and getting paid for it.

Then he put it all together in “How To Find Out What You Love Doing Once And For All”

Reading this book has been a personally revealing process to me. It has steps. I’m a steps kind of guy. When I got to step number two, I shut off my computer and started right away. I thought, “If I’m going to give this guy a fair shake then I’m going to do everything he says step by step. Just like you were taught in school, except this time you’ll actually learn something useful I thought.

I’m not going to bore you with my personal journey unless someone cares to know. If that’s the case just ask via twitter or in the comments below and I’ll put up a video or something of the sort.

Long story short. I’m doing what I love and I’ve never felt more free and on track with my life and I wish the same for you. I’m excited, and that’s a great feeling.

Photo Credit By Merkosh – Own work, CC BY-SA 3.0 – Ray Bradbury was a success because he loved what he did and made enough to support his family.

6 thoughts on “The Four Letter Word That Determines Success

  1. Miss Gisele B.

    What a uplifting post!

    Finding what you love and what brings you joy is THE ultimate key to success.

    I could not agree with you more.

    This is such an incredible post to read in January because this type of content can help so many people get on the right track and make 2009 their best year ever!!!

    Miss Gisele B

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  2. Andre

    Ray, I admit I have been curious about your life story. If you post it, I’ll read it. I almost enlisted in the Navy, but parental influence and the first Gulf War conspired against enlistment. I still love the Navy’s dress white uniforms though :).

    It is interesting that you put this post up. I have often done things because it was expected, and finding what I do like by accidental happenstance (strange, no?).

    Also, a truly horrible feeling is loving your (accidentally found) work and hating where you do it. I have alluded to this situation on your coaching site.

    In my former job, I learned a lot, but, over time, I felt that I was being used. I knew for a long time that the job was a dead-end, but I stayed. I loved doing the work, but disliked many of the senior people. Thus, I loved leaving the job, going to the gym, and the weekends. I absolutely dreaded Mondays! But I had bills to pay (yep loans from college (long story here)), and felt fearful about quitting a job without an immediate replacement and reliable salary check.

    The job ultimately collapsed. The employer had decided to move in a different direction, without me. I also discovered that I was severely underpaid.
    It was a rude, unfair, underhanded, and unjust move, but the die had been cast.

    In the pit of despair and disappointment (planning how to survive unemployment (I’m not going to lie, this was a scary thought)), I re-engaged in the job search process. Like you, I am a writer. Where I live, jobs are based on your previous jobs. In the age of frequent job change, employers are not truly in favor of job shifting (like from being an accountant to a public relations professional).

    In this research, I was looking for work related to volunteer church work (which I loved, stumbled onto this by sheer accident too). While doing that I found a job that was similar to mine. The job was interesting, in a slightly different field, but the closing date for applications had passed. Because the job was announced, I rushed home and submitted an application.

    I was called for an interview two weeks later, interviewed a month later, and accepted the job two weeks after that.

    The new job pays better, my co-workers are kinder and humane, and I no longer dread Mondays or workdays.

    But, I look with trepidation at the task of cleaning up the wreckage in other areas of my life caused by my decision to remain in a toxic environment for so long.

    I am happy that you have found your path though (it seemed like it took lots of trial and error).

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  3. Andre

    Thanks Ray.I’ll read your story at the link.

    It’s funny how things that seem like a catastrophe in my mind moderate when they are written out.

    I was worried about the length, but as I worked on it, it turned into a story with dramatic elements (which I like to read).

    If the story of one of my experiences can possibly help one person in the world, I would be happy.

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  4. dude

    please understand that most, the vast majority of you, will never bring forth the uniqueness that is you. you may read uplifting texts; follow interesting and uplifting speakers but you, more than likely, will never transcend the mediocrity and quiet desperation that is your life.

    if you want ‘out’ you have to want out more than feeling good, happy or uplifted. life is not to be dabbled with, life is to be lived. GO and LIVE AWAKE NOW! Dead is coming.

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